WHEN THINGS ARE BEYOND YOUR CONTROL

Here’s a recipe for permanent misery...

a)      Decide how you think the WORLD SHOULD be.

b)      Make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.

Then,when the world doesn’t obey your rules,get angry!!

That’s what miserable people do!!

Let’s say you expect that:

Friends SHOULD returns favours.

People SHOULD appreciate you.

Planes SHOULD arrive on time.

Everyone SHOULD be honest.

Your husband SHOULD remember your birthday.

These expectations may sound reasonable.But often,these things won’t happen.So you end up frustrated and disappointed.

There’s are better strategy.Don’t heve so many demands.Instead,have preferences!

For things that are beyond your control,tell yourself:

“I WOULD PREFER “A”, BUT IF “B” HAPPENS, IT’S OK TOO!”

This is really a game that you play in your head.

But if you make the game a habit,you have more peace of mind...

You prefer that people are polite...

But when they are rude,its doesn’t ruin your day.

You prefer sunshine...but rain is OK!!

In other words,you practise flexibility.

To become happier,we need to either a) change the world,or b) change our thinking.It is easier to change our thinking.

IN A NUTSHELL

It’s not what happen to you that determines your happiness.It’s how you think about what happens to you.

Nota kaki: Sangat praktikal!!

By:Andrew Matthews